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Working with a career coach
Mentor or career coach: the difference and how to find a mentor
How mentoring differs from coaching, when each helps, how to approach a potential mentor and how to keep the relationship useful for both of you.
How they differ
| Mentor | Coach | |
|---|---|---|
| Relationship | Often informal, sometimes through a scheme | A professional arrangement |
| Usually paid? | Usually not | Usually yes |
| Draws on | Their own career and field knowledge | Coaching skills and structured questions |
| Best for | Field insight, introductions, perspective | Decisions, preparation, accountability |
Where mentors come from
- Former managers or senior colleagues.
- Professional bodies and associations, some of which run mentoring schemes.
- University alumni networks.
- Employer mentoring programmes, if your organisation has one.
How to ask
Hi [Name], I am [current role] and I am working towards [specific goal]. Your move from [their earlier role] to [their current role] is close to what I am trying to do. Would you be open to a 30-minute conversation in the next few weeks? I would like to ask how you approached [one specific question]. If it is useful for both of us, we could talk about meeting occasionally after that, but there is no expectation. Thank you for considering it, [Your name]
Agree a light structure
If a first conversation goes well, suggest a simple arrangement: how often you will meet, for how long, and roughly how long the arrangement will run before you review it. A light structure protects your mentor's time and stops the relationship drifting. Some people meet monthly for six months, then decide together whether to continue.
Keep it useful for both of you
Good mentee habits
- Bring specific questions to each conversation.
- Act on at least one suggestion and report back.
- Respect their time and let them set the pace.
- Say thank you, and offer help in return where you can.
Common questions
Should I ask a stranger to be my mentor?
Asking for a single conversation about a specific question is more likely to be welcomed than asking someone to become your mentor straight away.
Can I have a mentor and a coach at the same time?
Yes. A mentor gives field perspective; a coach helps you work through decisions and actions. They complement each other.
Put it into practice
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